Prostate Pleasure: Introducing the “P Spot”
It’s time to talk about the P-word! That’s right – the prostate. You’ve probably heard of a woman’s G-spot and how much pleasure it can bring her. Men have an equivalent of that – their prostate. It’s often called a “man’s G-spot.” Unfortunately, the prostate is often sadly ignored and untouched. Introducing: the "P-Spot".
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis. When a man is aroused, it becomes swollen, and just like the G-spot in women, it’s about two inches in and located towards the belly. Men and women definitely have more in common when it comes to pleasure than you might think. Both the G-spot and the P-spot can bring men and women orgasms on a whole new level of wow.
For many women, they can differentiate the first time they had a G-spot orgasm compared to other orgasms. The sensation can often be completely mind-blowing and shouldn’t be reserved for just women, especially when men have a very similar spot within their body that’s capable of the same thing. A prostate orgasm for a guy could be an incredible experience for him, opening up a whole new world of pleasure.
The prostate can be stimulated externally and indirectly, by stroking a man’s perineum. The perineum is the spot between a man’s anus and scrotum (another often-ignored area!). Massaging this area during sex or applying rhythmic pressure to it could seriously help boost his orgasm. This is a good way to ease your way into prostate play, since many men are pretty guarded and skeptical about it.
Of course, accessing the prostate from the outside is a simple and less-scary-sounding experience, but to really have direct access to the P-spot, you have to go internally. This is the part where many men start to get uneasy. Rest assured that prostate play is normal, healthy, and can be a lot of fun. There isn’t anything gross or shameful about tuning into your own body, and if you have a partner who’s on board, why not try something new?
If you’re planning on engaging in some prostate fun with your partner, all you really need is plenty of lube and some good communication. If you are about to try prostate play with your male partner, here are a few pointers: file your nails (just as man should before vaginal insertion), get some gloves if you’d like, and talk through the process. The thought of P-spot stimulation in and of itself (let alone by another person) is unnerving to many men, so go slowly!
A lot of lube will go a long way as you insert your fingers into your man’s butt. (Remember that the vagina is self-lubricating while the anus is not.) Start slowly, applying pleasure to the outside area and gently working your way in. Listen to his cues, check in with him, and again – go slowly!
Once you’re a couple inches in, you should try to feel for the walnut-sized bump inside. You will probably be able to tell from his verbal cues if you’ve found it or not, so keep an ear out. Once you’ve found his prostate, things can really start to heat up for the two of you.
Start by applying light pressure to the area and increasing the intensity until you find what brings out the most pleasure for him. Just like the female G-spot, not everyone likes the same kind of stimulation on their P-spot. You can try static pressure, circular motions, or a “come hither” movement to see what he likes best. To really amplify things, you can use your other hand to play with his penis or balls. Many men find that having stimulation both in the form of a handjob and a prostate massage can send them over the edge with a mindblowing orgasm. Finding the perfect combination can take some time, so don’t get discouraged.
Keep in mind that prostate stimulation may not be your guy’s “thing.” If it’s not, don’t feel disappointed. Remember that, regardless, you guys have just experienced something new and intimate together, and that’s hot all on its own.
While prostate play can be daunting if you’ve never tried it before, the end result can definitely be worth it. Keep the lines of communication between yourself and your partner open, and be positive. Finding new ways to spice up your sex life is always a fun experience, so what have you got to lose?